How To Mind Yourself At This Time Of The Year x

Please hit play on this substack…The second part of the written section is in the audio (Three minutes onwards is part 2) :) Hope you enjoy…This is one for you to listen to while you wrap pressies, go for a stroll in that Solstice light - yay to Solstice ;) or just to keep you company at any stage over the next week x

Hey there my beautiful Substack family.

How are you keeping? I hope this message finds you well as we are speedily moving towards the big day that is Christmas. I know this time of the year can feel very tricky for many so in my letter today, I send you not only my love but also my light and strength at this time too.

It’s a very emotional time of the year and it has a tendency to trigger off lots of inner feelings - sometimes when we least expect them - so my little piece of advice for what it’s worth, is to be kind to yourself, to be gentle on yourself and to step lightly through this time. Take a big deep breathe in and then let all those tangles held inside you loosened with a big deep breathe out. If someone is grating on you….or through their personality is hurting your feelings….. apply my methodology of the nodding dog….Keep a passive smile on your face, nod and then make your excuse to eject yourself from that moment…. that room…..that person.

If you need to tell a little white lie, then do.

“I have a bit of a headache, I think I’ll lie down for a bit.”

“Oh I just thought I meant to ring my friend, she’s on her own, I must go connect in.”

And then disapppppppppearrrrrr! Be gone my friend.

Do not stay to appease anyone and equally there is ABSOLUTELY NO GAIN in trying to make your case with someone who is not willing to open their mind to different thoughts about the world or even about the way you’ve set the table haha ;) If this person is a headwreck, then they probably do not have the sensitivity or capacity to understand where you are coming from, so this Christmas, don’t waste energy on someone who speedily will wreck your head, but instead this Christmas, make it a different Christmas for you and view this moment in a big picture way - it is not worth the verbal scuffle, it’s not worth the rise in blood pressure, there is an easy way to resolve it, just use those beautiful feet of yours, nod, smile and and exit stage left! ;) Ciao amigos haha ;)

And of course if you really want to exit stage left in an extra classy way, cha cha slide out that door like the two well known faces or feet from one of my most favourite movies ‘Save the Last Dance’ ;) If you know my reference, you will smile.

The main thing is, that in life, nothing is really worth an argument, especially if this someone is just passing through the Christmas period and especially if you know they are going to knock you off your stride. In life, there just are people who don’t get on and that is ok. That is absolutely normal. We can’t get on brilliantly with everyone. The key to this moment is to realise that everyone is different and that sometimes we need to be the bigger person in the situation…I promise you, once you start letting go things and people who bring you down, and situations that present an opening to stand your ground, you will realise that to let go is the wisest choice when it comes to bad energy. Do what needs to be done, then exit the situation in the most polite way. You are better than the argument, you are bigger than the situation and for me anyway, life is way too short to give my peace away to someone who just wants to take it. Ninety nine per cent of the time, these people are generally just so unsettled inside themselves, they will fight with their fingernails if they could. Just stay true to your natural goodness, and don’t get tangled with people who in a few hours, a few days will be gone from your life once again. I hope this advice helps someone somewhere………..

Okeydokey…

***The rest of this letter is in the audio above….so just hit play and I really hope you enjoy the second part :)

Thank you for being here always,

Love ya lots,

Lou x

PS. A final extra thought, kind of opposite to the above is that we never know who won’t be here next Christmas, it could be me, it could be you, it could be someone who we love ever so dearly so it’s very important to make memories with our inner circle, those who love us for being us. Take those photos. Record those videos and in the moment when you know you are having a magical moment, lock it into your memories and store it there for a day where you will look back and say thank god I spent that valuable time with them! x

I will miss her forever and a day x

This is what my inner joy, peace and contentment looks like at this time of the year along with my favourite people close by x

Daisy…need I say more….Cosy open fire…need I say more…..pick me up when Christmas is over haha :)

There is nothing like the smell of an Irish mother’s baking….the special ingredient - the LOVE x

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