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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Thanks so much Lee for your message...Thanks for taking the time for reading my words....And you are so right Lee.....it can happen fast and it happen slowly......we can just lose parts of ourselves and all of a sudden, we can find ourselves lost. Thanks for being part of my community here....Keep being YOU and happy Tuesday to you!

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Lacey Delayne's avatar

Thanks for this encouragement. I agree that the goal of life is to be oneself, is to become what one potentially is. Authenticity is so important in the process of living a life of peace and joy.

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Thank you so much Lacey for your lovely words....so great to be connected...here begins a long friendship ahead....Sending you all the good vibes for the week ahead xx

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Lacey Delayne's avatar

Thank you! Sending them right back at you! ❤️

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Tracy O’Brien's avatar

I am so glad that you are you Lou, never be anyone else other than your wonderful authentic self. Sending you love and hugs xx

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Love you lots T xx right back atcha xx

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Eileen McGovern's avatar

Such wisdom, Lou! Thank you for this insightful and beautiful piece of writing!

I think if this was on the curriculum of all our schools we would have a generation of young people who would be more confident to be themselves rather than conforming to what is ‘expected’ of them. It has taken me many decades to work this out…but better late than never! 😉

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Thanks so much Eileen for always being such a supporter and believer in my work and words xx I appreciate your sooo much x PS....well you know the rest of this line ;)

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Kelly C's avatar

These words hit me hard. At 46 I wonder - maybe it's too late for me now, maybe I dont deserve it, maybe I'm to afraid to make those changes. X

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Kelly....sending you a big hug and loads and loads of love...it is never too late.....Gran started on Fb when she was 107 ;) and don't forget, start by loving you and then small steps from there.....PS Gran would also say you are just a young girl at 46 xxx

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Kelly C's avatar

Awww love that. Thanks Gran :) X

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Lisa Bolin 🌸's avatar

Hi Kelly! I moved to the other side of the planet to a different country, culture and language at 45 - so you’re not too old! I perhaps don’t recommend such an extreme life change but small changes can make such a big difference - maybe start by learning something new that you’ve always wanted to try? It then opens you too other new things & you realise it’s not as scary as you thought 💖 good luck! 🍀

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Kelly C's avatar

Thanks so much for your lovely reply. Your right, I will try something small and see where I go. Half tempted to have a go at doing this substack thing myself and see what happens. Might help me figure our what I want. Just started following you too now:)

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Lisa Bolin 🌸's avatar

You should definitely give it a go! And thank you 🙏🏼

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Go for it Kelly xx

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Love this Lisa xx #youareaninspiration

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Margaret's avatar

God what I'd give to be 46 again So ok 65 isn't ancient but if I knew the problems ahead I would have done more and chanced new things Insread I stayed in a safe humdrum rut Happy comfortable but same old each day

While I would never have flown off on wild adventures there were other opportunities I did not take up

So frm this end pick small things and try

I went for promotion and got it I should have done it yrs before

Good luck 👍

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Kelly C's avatar

Thankyou Margaret

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Martha Dalton's avatar

Loved this Louise 💗

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Love you Martha Dalton xx

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Adeline Laird's avatar

Hi lou, very true words. we have to believe in ourselves first, but most of the time, never do so as your title goes be master of your own fate first xx

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Good morning Adeline xx Thanks sooo much for reading my piece always. yep we must master ourselves and then everything is possible xx Lots of love to you always x

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Martina Dowd's avatar

Love this letter Louise as always you have an amazing way with words.I'm lucky to know you.Keep up the good work ❤️

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Thanks so much Martina for believing in me so much...and for being such a supporter of my substack....Ps Loved chatting on the phone the other day xx

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Jo Bozarth's avatar

Such a important message, Lou. Especially in this time of social media. So happy I started my day listening. Xx

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Thanks so much Jo for listening to my words...you are the best..look forward to the day that I can drink tea, eat cheese and give you a big hug in real life xxx

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Jo Bozarth's avatar

Your words, written and spoken, make me think and feel. I appreciate you.

Hooray for Irish cheese, probably a lot of caffeine, and lovely chats one day! Xx

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Roll on that day Jo xx I'll bring Irish butter as well and homemade brown bread haha xxx

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Jo Bozarth's avatar

Oh my goodness! That will be the happiest day! ♥️😋

And being a California native with a Mexican mother, I will contribute homemade enchiladas. It will be a multi-cultural feast!

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Ev Davie's avatar

Love this thank you Lou, we feel happier within when we are open and authentic. Xx

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

Thank you so so much Eve....so true...it's important to just be ourselves xx lots of love to you E x

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Val Kelly's avatar

Such wise words Louise.....very important to be happy in your own skin....keep being you and sharing your lovely words to us all xxx

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Louise Coghlan's avatar

love you lots Val...and you keeping being YOU xxxx thank you sooo much x

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Dolores McKenna's avatar

After listening to your sub stack Louise I’m gonna continue being me!! Taking one day at a time and always looking for the good in others, that’s me. I am always thankful for who I am and who ever is drawn or connected to me, you being one of those very special people. I pray also for my family and friends and give thanks for my many blessings. 🦋💚🌈☘️🙏🕯🐞🫶

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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Beautifully put! Thank you!

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Margaret's avatar

Here I am miles behind on your substacks but getting there My life is a rollercoaster and I don't like that I'm bouncing frm either a medical or emotional crisis As the song goes..stop the world and let me off...I'm full of negatively snd what ifs My mindset is set in stone My latest event irregular heart has me scared witless as have the blood thinners I'm now on Two yrs ago I had next to nothing An eye condition but I coped I listen to you znd love your talks they are like chats with a friend I'm trying to switch neg to pos but it's bloody hard

You talk to Granny I talk to my Mam

We can't go back only forward my path seems very steep I have good family friends and Drs etc so it's up to me to plod on and try better at changing my mindset

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